Moving Waters Counseling
Dustin Holden MA LMFT
Dustin Holden MA LMFT
Couples/Marriage Counseling
~Do you feel misunderstood in your relationship?
~Does talking things out only seem to make it worse?
~Does your marriage not feel like it used to?
I specialize in teaching couples the skills they
need to understand their struggles and build the relationship they want.
As frustrations in a marriage or a committed relationship grow into misunderstandings, criticism, and defensiveness, hurt feelings make it hard to move forward. It is hard to know what to do, or even what not to do.
Many couples feel that anything they do or say makes things worse, and feel that there is simply nothing that will make a difference.
Marriage counseling/couples counseling can get you moving in the direction you want for your relationship.
Psychologist and marriage researcher John Gottman has identified four areas that can indicate serious problems
in a marriage or committed relationship:
1.Criticism- this is a direct criticism about your partner's character or personality, which is very different from a complaint, that comments on an event or occurrence.
2.Contempt-this can be a poisonous element in a relationship, because it conveys disgust. When this is the message that is being communicated, it is virtually impossible to settle a disagreement. Contempt can be sarcasm, name-calling, eye-rolling, sneering, mockery, or hostile humor.
3.Defensiveness-Though it is easy to see this as a response to what the other person did, defensiveness is really a way of blaming your partner. It is a way to shift the focus off of you and squarely onto the shoulders of your mate. This is dangerous because it does nothing but escalate the conflict. The attack/defend cycle is very easy to get into, and tricky to get out of.
4. Stonewalling-When conflict gets heated, or returns regularly, it sometimes feels safer to just tune out and not get involved. When the negativity in the relationship has gotten quite common, one partner can simply tune out by hiding behind a newspaper, not responding to questions, turning away, or leaving the room. By turning away from fights in this way, the marriage is being avoided.
In couples counseling, you learn what is needed to make a difference in your relationship. You receive special attention on what knowledge, skills, or approach is needed in your unique situation.
Each relationship is different, and has its own needs. In marriage counseling at Moving Waters Counseling, you will be treated as individuals that each have an important perspective on the strengths you can celebrate now and the challenges you face.
You can build the relationship you want, and feel respected, close, and happy!
I offer FREE 15 minute phone consultations to discuss the needs of your relationship.
Call 722-1920 or email today to schedule!
~Does talking things out only seem to make it worse?
~Does your marriage not feel like it used to?
I specialize in teaching couples the skills they
need to understand their struggles and build the relationship they want.
As frustrations in a marriage or a committed relationship grow into misunderstandings, criticism, and defensiveness, hurt feelings make it hard to move forward. It is hard to know what to do, or even what not to do.
Many couples feel that anything they do or say makes things worse, and feel that there is simply nothing that will make a difference.
Marriage counseling/couples counseling can get you moving in the direction you want for your relationship.
Psychologist and marriage researcher John Gottman has identified four areas that can indicate serious problems
in a marriage or committed relationship:
1.Criticism- this is a direct criticism about your partner's character or personality, which is very different from a complaint, that comments on an event or occurrence.
2.Contempt-this can be a poisonous element in a relationship, because it conveys disgust. When this is the message that is being communicated, it is virtually impossible to settle a disagreement. Contempt can be sarcasm, name-calling, eye-rolling, sneering, mockery, or hostile humor.
3.Defensiveness-Though it is easy to see this as a response to what the other person did, defensiveness is really a way of blaming your partner. It is a way to shift the focus off of you and squarely onto the shoulders of your mate. This is dangerous because it does nothing but escalate the conflict. The attack/defend cycle is very easy to get into, and tricky to get out of.
4. Stonewalling-When conflict gets heated, or returns regularly, it sometimes feels safer to just tune out and not get involved. When the negativity in the relationship has gotten quite common, one partner can simply tune out by hiding behind a newspaper, not responding to questions, turning away, or leaving the room. By turning away from fights in this way, the marriage is being avoided.
In couples counseling, you learn what is needed to make a difference in your relationship. You receive special attention on what knowledge, skills, or approach is needed in your unique situation.
Each relationship is different, and has its own needs. In marriage counseling at Moving Waters Counseling, you will be treated as individuals that each have an important perspective on the strengths you can celebrate now and the challenges you face.
You can build the relationship you want, and feel respected, close, and happy!
I offer FREE 15 minute phone consultations to discuss the needs of your relationship.
Call 722-1920 or email today to schedule!
We provide marriage counseling,
couples counseling, individual counseling, relationship counseling,
relationship advice, parenting groups as well as workshops for fathers.
The following communities are served by
Moving Waters Counseling: Minnesota, Duluth, Cloquet, Hermantown, Esko, Proctor, Two Harbors, Wrenshall, Carlton, Saginaw, Floodwood, Knife River, French River, Cotton, Island Lake,
Moose Lake, Barnum, Fond Du Lac,
St. Louis County, Lake County, Carlton County
Wisconsin, Superior, Maple, Poplar, Brule, South Range,
Wentworth, Foxboro, Solon Springs, Gordon, Lake Nebagamon, Oliver, Douglas County
The following communities are served by
Moving Waters Counseling: Minnesota, Duluth, Cloquet, Hermantown, Esko, Proctor, Two Harbors, Wrenshall, Carlton, Saginaw, Floodwood, Knife River, French River, Cotton, Island Lake,
Moose Lake, Barnum, Fond Du Lac,
St. Louis County, Lake County, Carlton County
Wisconsin, Superior, Maple, Poplar, Brule, South Range,
Wentworth, Foxboro, Solon Springs, Gordon, Lake Nebagamon, Oliver, Douglas County
Moving Waters Counseling
8 N 2nd Ave E Suite 310
Duluth, MN 55802
218-722-1920
info @ movingwaterscounseling.com